Of course you do,
we all have dreams, we all at some stage have or have had a vision to be an olympic athlete, to be a successful business and / or career person, to be rich and
famous, to be a loving parent or partner, to be an integral member of the
community etc.
Stop for one
minute and answer the following questions:
What is
your dream(s)?
Have you
achieved your dream(s) yet?
If not,
why not?
For most people
what stops us from achieving our dreams are the following;
1) We are
not 100% clear on what our dream is and because of this we fail to commit our
energy towards it, purely because we do not know exactly what we are committing
to.
2) We do
not resonate with our dreams. What does resonate mean? Essentially our dreams already exist and
vibrate at a certain wave frequency. The best way to work out what the wave
frequency (or resonance) of your dream is, is to ask yourself the following
question; how would I feel if I could be, do or have my dream now? The feelings
you list will give you the clues to the wave frequency of your dreams and the
only reason you do not have this dream now is because at some level you are not
resonating (or vibrating) on the same wave length as the dream and the feelings
that having it would give you. Often our resonance can be affected by our
subconscious resistance to the
dream. This resistance is often
expressed through our fears.
3) Our
perception of the truth and how we choose to believe about what is happening to us at any
given moment can stop us from having our dreams. We place our own filter
(called our belief system) on the truth and from this create our external
reality (through our behaviours) to support this perception. Whether it is true
or false our thinking will make it so.
If you have a belief
that you are not good enough and therefore not worthy or deserving of your
dreams then any time you begin to pursue your dreams at some stage in the
process you will always sabotage the outcome because of your underlying
belief(s). These beliefs may be very old and you may not even be aware of
them but if you are not achieving all that you want in your life, then it is
highly likely there is a belief pattern(s) holding you back.
For
example; studies show that most poor people who win the lottery will
be poor again (no matter how much money they win) within two years of winning
the money. Why is this? Well the underlying thoughts, feelings, beliefs and
behaviours of a poor person will ensure they spend the money to return them to
the reality that was true for them before they won the lottery. In this
case, the belief system that they are not good enough, not worthy and therefore
undeserving of the new found riches.
Another
example involves Christopher Columbus;
When conventional
wisdom proclaimed as fact the world was flat, he held the extreme notion that
he could sail over the edge and land in China instead of deep space. This
rebel sailed his clipper ships where no one had ever gone before - and reshaped
people's view of the world! More on this below…
4) Our
fears.
For most of us our grand visions
become minimised by our fears and we end up settling for second best. We aim
for a target that is half as fulfilling as the original
dream we once desired. Often we even
make excuses by saying "yeah but I am not sure if that dream was what I
really wanted and besides, every
time I put my energy into achieving it, it never bears any fruit and it just
feels like too much hard work" Sound familiar?
Do you ever feel
like your fears have got in the way of your best intentions? Not to worry,
below is a sure fire way of helping you to overcome your fears.
The Good
News:
Essentially all
challenges we face on an external level are manifestations of our internal way
of thinking, feeling and believing and are actually there for us to find a
"gift" from which (once learned) we will grow and develop to a whole
new level of ability and reality.
The easiest ways to achieve your dreams and remove the
fears that are holding you back include:
1) Get
100% clear on what your dream is.
What does it look
like? Feel Like? Sound Like? Taste Like? Smell Like? And Why do you want to
achieve this dream?
2) Commit
100% to thinking only the thoughts, feeling only the feelings, believing only
the beliefs and behaving only the behaviours that will make this dream a
reality.
Regardless of
what you may actually be perceiving in your external reality. Remember what you
are observing is not necessarily the truth.
For
example: Five centuries ago, Europeans reacted with disbelief when they
heard that the world is round but Columbus
made another equally mind-popping discovery. His revelation is about the power
of cultural belief systems and how people see only what they believe they will
see. And, like the Europeans, most people of our time want to discard Columbus' radical news as
rubbish.
Columbus' arrival in the New
World revealed how cultural belief systems determine what people
see - or don't see. Columbus
found that the native people in this new land couldn't see his clipper ships.
The natives were unable to see the big ships because they didn't believe that
big ships existed!
You See
What You Believe
In 1492, Columbus landed on the
island of Hispaniola, now the countries of Haiti and the Dominican Republic.
Until Columbus'
arrival, the islanders had only seen and heard of small boats - like their own
canoes. The tribe had never seen nor heard of large ocean-going sea craft. So
when the Nina, Pinta and Santa Maria
arrived, the natives couldn't see the big ships of Christopher Columbus! And
the vessels were floating in plain sight
right off shore!
"I
Don't See Any Big Ships!"
Why couldn't the
islanders see the big boats? Because nobody in their culture had ever seen big
boats before. And nobody had ever written or talked about big boats in their
society.
In any culture,
the mythmakers - teachers, historians and media - decide people's reality. The
specific world that mythmakers talk and write about determines the aspects of
reality that people are able to perceive. The world that these storytellers talk
and write about creates a belief system unique to each culture. And this belief
system acts as a filter, screening out realities that don't fit into the
cultural conditioning of the society.
The myth keepers
who shaped the islanders' belief systems didn't recognize the possibility that large ships might exist. And the
filter of this belief prevented the natives from seeing the three large sea
vessels. At first!
Three
Keys for observing the real truth:
The island shaman
wasn't able to see the ships when they first arrived. Like his tribes people,
the shaman medicine man wasn't able to see past the filters of his cultural
conditioning.
But unlike the
common folk of his tribe, the medicine man was educated by radical myth makers
- shaman elders. These non-conformist teachers were always exploring "new
worlds."
From these
elders, the shaman learned that a person only sees the elements in the world
that the person's mind has been exposed to. The ego-mind filters out realities
that don't fit its picture of what exists in the world. But the shaman also
learned from his teachers how to bypass the limitations of the ego-mind.
The elders gave the shaman these 3 keys to help him see "outside the box" of his belief system - to
perceive the world as it really exists.
Key 1 -
Look for a Different Pattern
The 1st key, made
famous in the movie Star Wars, is to notice "a disturbance in the
force."
Anchored just
offshore, Columbus'
ships are creating out-of-the-ordinary patterns in the ocean waves. Even though
he can't see the ships, the observant shaman does notice unexplained variations
in the waves.
Key 2 -
Don't Listen to Your Mind!
Curious, the
shaman investigates the unusual wave patterns. As he begins his inquiry, he
uses the 2nd key: "Don't trust your mind!"
Generations of
medicine men and women have passed down this key to happiness. The 2nd key
alerts the shaman to the limitations of his ego-mind. The shaman understands
that his mind only perceives realities that his mind has been exposed to by his
culture. Limited by its belief system, the mind is unaware of a boundless world
teeming with unfiltered possibilities.
Key 3 -
Open to New Possibilities
From his elders,
the medicine man learned that any unusual pattern in our world always indicates
that something has changed in our reality. But, in this instance, the shaman is
not yet seeing the specific element that has been added or taken away. In order
to see what element has changed, he lets go of how his ego-mind
"thinks" the world operates. He opens himself to making a fresh
discovery - the 3rd key.
As a result of
deciding to allow new possibilities
into his life, the shaman sees the cause of the peculiar patterns: the
never-before-imagined clipper ships! As soon as the shaman perceives the large
ships, he tells his tribe the ships exist and points to exactly where they are.
The rest of the islanders are then able to perceive the vessels.
And Finally…
4)
Minimise your fears by removing the stress associated with the imagined future
event that you are fearing. You can use a number of tools to do this and one of the easiest and most powerful ones I recommend is
Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT. For more information on how EFT can help
you to remove your fears and your old belief patterns you may want to read the
Activate Your Weight Loss Book, as it is an integral tool we use in our
coaching program, with some life changing results having been experienced by
our clients.
