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When the feeling isn't Yours |
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When the feeling isn’t yours
Have you ever found yourself feeling suddenly weighed down, out-of-sorts, scattered, ungrounded, extra-emotional for unexplained reasons, wound up, anxious or downright depressed and wondered where it came from?
As electro magnetic and energetic beings, we pick up energy from other people, from the magnetic fields of computers, from stories on television news and from energy left in a room where people have once been, for example. We can also experience energetic shifts from what we eat, from pesticides, “stuff” in the air and more.
You know the feeling: You feel yucky after sharing lunch with someone. Or you feel exhilarated after a phone call with someone else. You feel drained after being in a shopping mall or a crowd of people or you feel refreshed after a softball game or a concert. You felt centered before watching the news, but feel discouraged afterward. These are just a few examples of energy being exchanged and how we can be affected.
Becoming energy-aware not only opens a world of understanding about how we are affected, it also gives us the opportunity for powerful self-care when we are willing to take responsibility for our energies.
Sensitive and empathic people especially experience this with their ability to feel others’ emotions and energies quite literally. Questions I am asked include, “how do I protect myself from others’ energy?” and “how do I remain open and caring while energy protected?”
The first key is taking responsibility for your energies daily. Become aware of how you draw energy from others, such as complaining, gossip, expecting someone else to solve your problem or hold up your confidence, emotional instability, judgment/criticism and various invisible or unconscious methods. You can also draw energy from others by remaining aloof or expecting the other person in a relationship to do most of the emotional work.
We all need the loving support of friendship and counsel—being heard and understood—for what weighs heavy on us. This is distinguished from what I described above. If we tune into and are honest with ourselves, we can learn to recognize when we cross that line. Good relationships will help teach us as well.
Second, self-care will increase your ability to stay centered and to restore your center when you get “off”. There are major benefits to this. Taking care of your energies daily will help you stay emotionally centered (and better able to acheive your goals), physically healthy, mentally clear, speed your healing and increase the effectiveness of EFT.
There are many ways to protect, cleanse and heal our energies. I’ve included just a few of them as practical and spiritual tools for keeping your energies healthy and vibrant.
1. Daily Energy Routine: I wouldn’t be without Donna Eden’s 5 minute Daily Energy Routine. Time and again, in addition to every morning, when I’ve found myself dicombobbled, scattered, or tense, I use one of those moves and in a minute or two I’m clear again. It can be found in her book Energy Medicine, on her DVDs or I have a written description I would be happy to email to you.
2. “Love always protects” is a universal spiritual principle and central to inner peace. Commonly, Love is imaged in energy terms as a protective and cleansing golden-white light, spirit, or a crystal energy around you. By all means, use this light or other colors (I often like a deep red) to sweep over and through your body. Let’s take it further.
Think of Love as something that radiates from within you. Developing healthy self-love means we are more accepting of ourselves and therefore of others. We can release the need to “fix” anyone because we realize the perfection of where they are and the strength they have to heal (I didn’t say it would always be easy!). When we open the door of our compassion, it is important that we remain in the doorway consciously managing the energy of what we give and receive.
3. “Mind your own business” means use EFT to neutralize your irritations and judgments of human behavior and over-identification with others’ pain. As you do, you will open your heart to be more universally loving and accepting. This in turn increases your ability to be simultaneously compassionate, engaged and unattached to other people’s pain.
4. Heal your magnets: Use EFT for times when you felt guilt, hurt, shame, betrayal, irritated or used by others; even for the general irritation of being able to pick up other people’s energies. As we heal our wounds and call back the parts of ourselves we’ve misused to please, to “fix”, to take responsibility for “their” part of the event, our energy systems heal and calm and we reduce our magnetism for others’ like-issues.
5. Develop healthy emotional boundaries: People who have trouble saying no, often have trouble hearing it. Make friends with the words “no” and “yes” so you be congruent with your purpose and mission (being you).
The inner peace that is cultivated through these principals and tools is the central key to changing how much energy you take on from others and your ability to stay clear. The biggest step is realizing no one else can do it for you. Taking over this part of your existence as a human being will make you more effective in everything you endeavor and make life generally more fun and enjoyable, not to mention healthy! |
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