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Letter to Gary Craig 11.17.06 |
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Cathryn Taylor |
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BIRTH OF CATHRYN’S SEVEN LAYER HEALING PROCESS
(Letter written and emailed to Gary Craig, founder of EFT, on 11/17/06)
Dear Gary –
I just had the most profound experience with EFT. My name is Cathryn Taylor and I am the author of The Inner Child Workbook. My book has been out since 1991 and is considered one of the classics in the inner child field. For the past 20 years I have been working with this concept and instructing others on how to identify and resolve their inner child’s conflicts. Several years ago I came across your techniques and have been applying them to addictive behaviors and teaching clients how to use them to mitigate their anxieties as well.
But today was a real milestone.
For the past several months I have been teaching a new series (inspired by the movie, The Secret,) entitled, “Teaching Your Inner Child the Laws of Attraction.” As is usually the case, we teach what we need to learn. When we bring in more light we illuminate that which vibrates at a lower frequency. The very act of teaching this subject uncovered my last cherished saboteur (my coined phrase for the part of us whose actions are intended to keep us safe but whose impact keeps us from getting what we want).
She had been acting up ever since I taught my first class. This little one was my inner 17-year-old who was stuck in a moment of time when my father (who was my hero) had a nervous breakdown just as I was ready to leave for college. That part of me had been held captive in that moment and had remained frozen since that time.
What became apparent today was that any time I truly wanted to step into my mastery (which, in her belief system, would require my leaving my father) she would sabotage me by overeating and numbing out my passion and my will. No matter how healthy I got in every other area of my life there was always this one lingering, shadow part of me who existed in a state of loyalty and despair.
Finally, today, I put it all together. I brought her into my mind’s eye and invited her to not only learn the principles of “The Secret” but to also learn how to cope with her despair and grief over dad’s breakdown by teaching her how to EFT. I had used EFT to deal with emotional disturbances – but I had never considered going back in time, through meditation, and actually teaching that frozen part of me how to do it.
Inner Child Work is based on externalizing the old wound, giving it a face and then interacting with that part in order to make it feel safe. The model is a magical way of empowering our most competent adult self while simultaneously being able to acknowledge and respond to our more frightened part. But the shift that occurred when I actually stepped back in time and taught her how to do EFT in the exact moment when she lost faith was miraculous. EFT is a brilliant method to neutralize the pain of our inner child’s past.
The following is a brief description of how I orchestrated this piece of work. I send it to you in hopes that it may be of help to others who could benefit from this combination. Thank you so much for your wisdom and generosity, Gary.
This piece of work began by my going into meditation. The minute I did so I was inspired to open my eyes and grab Charles Frizzel’s print called, Share the Gift. I had purchased this greeting card with this print on it the day my godchild, Lillian, was born. I had framed it and it had been by my bedside for over 17 years. Lily was just about to turn 17, and here I was getting ready to heal the 17-year- old within me.
With the print in my lap I resumed my meditative position. Just as I closed my eyes, Lily jumped into this picture in my mind’s eye and declared, “Bama, I can help you teach your inner child this stuff because you are the one who taught me!” I was so taken back and touched at this that tears began to roll down my cheeks. Once Lily and I hugged she sat down by my inner 17-year-old who was sitting cross-legged in front of me. I told my inner child who I was, introduced her to Lily. I explained that we had come back in time to help her heal. I said I wanted to begin by apologizing to her for taking so long to come back for her. I was sorry I had not recognized she was in such pain. I then explained I wanted to show her this magical technique which would help her feel better. I explained EFT to her. I told her I wanted to show her how it worked by doing a round on the sadness and guilt I felt because it had taken me so long to come back for her. I began with the following set up. I invited both of them to just sit there and watch.
Even though I did not recognize I was letting you (my inner teen) do my dirty work – even though I collapsed into your coping mechanism every time I was afraid to progress into my greatness – even though I did not know until today I had abandoned you, my dear 17- year-old within me – you, who loved and adored Dad and felt so terrified when you witnessed his breakdown – I love and accept you and myself profoundly and forgive you and me fully and completely. I then did a round of tappings which covered the feelings associated with this.
EYEBROW: Didn’t know until today it was you
SIDE OF EYE: Collapsed into your despair and fear
UNDER EYE: Let you, my dear, inner 17-year-old do my dirty work
NOSE: Overeat to cope just as you did
CHIN: Didn’t feel safe so overate
COLLARBONE: Ignored and abandoned you because I did not know
UNDER ARM: Didn’t know until today how to feel any other way
HEAD: Abandoned you because I did not know.
Lily and my inner 17-year-old watched as I modeled for them the manner in which this worked. Lily turned to my inner-17-year-old and said, “This stuff really works, Bama taught me how to do it!” My inner17-year-old nodded in a quizzical manner.
This first round successfully neutralized my own guilt and remorse. But the real shift came when I stepped into her essence and did this next round. Then the water works really let loose and the healing truly took place. Merging into the 17-year-old who sat in front of me I spoke from her reality and began with this set up.
Even though I did not know how to cope and was afraid to succeed because I did not want to leave Dad in his time of need; even though the only way I knew how to cope and stay loyal to him was by over eating and quieting my fears; even though I did not want to let my adult self step into her mastery because it would mean leaving Dad behind, I love myself fully and completely and I forgive myself for not knowing what I did not know.
Then the tapping went something like this:
EYEBROW: Felt abandoned by Dad (tears began to flow)
SIDE OF EYE: Felt so isolated and alone (tearful gulps)
UNDER EYE: Didn’t know what else to do… (began sobbing uncontrollably)
NOSE: Felt so abandoned by my adult self!
CHIN: Why did it take you so long to come back? I didn’t feel safe so I overate
COLLARBONE: Sabotaged my higher self because I felt she ignored me!
UNDER ARM: Felt so abandoned by Dad – why did he have so much pain?
HEAD: I needed him – I needed her – why did they both abandon and leave me so alone?
…THEN CAME THE ANGER… DESPAIR AND FORGIVENESS…
EYEBROW: How could Dad and my adult self leave me so alone! (Angry tears)
SIDE OF EYE: Didn’t they know I felt so isolated and alone! (More tearful gulps)
UNDER EYE: Didn’t they realize I didn’t know what else to do… (Agitated sobbing)
NOSE: Thank God she finally took time to listen.
CHIN: I really did not want you to fail – maybe now I can feel some peace and let go.
COLLARBONE: Okay so maybe Dad is dead and my adult self has finally come back to help me move on.
UNDER ARM: Maybe it is safe to learn this stuff and step into the life I have always wanted.
HEAD: Maybe it is safe to trust.
With this last round the tears stopped and my inner 17-year-old looked up at my adult self, nodded, and told her she was ready to learn the secrets of her trade. She was ready to move on. Lily and I then proceeded to teach her how to use EFT as a tool to curb her overeating; to sit with and transform the anxiety of growing up and to discharge her grief at having to say good bye to her Dad.
I have done many healings on myself and others – but this, by far, Gary, was the most profound and integrating. Not only did Lily, my inner teen and my adult self celebrate – but I felt the applause of my Angles, Masters, and most importantly, my Dad, as well. I cannot thank you enough for your graciousness and for this tool.
CATHRYN TAYLOR, MA, MFT, LADC
ADDENDUM – Over the next year I worked with this concept and began teaching it in my seminars and using it in my one to ones with others. With time the issues of the inner child began to subside. As this occurred another layer emerged and took this work into the next dimension.
I realized in my own work and my work with others that the issues of our inner children are the portals of entry for the discovery of the tasks of our soul. It soon made sense to extend this procedure to the time frame of past lives. I was intrigued by how simple it was to pose the question as to when this pattern began. Instantly the work shifted into another time zone – the time of origin.
In my own work this inquiry took me back to the time and space where my loyalty to Dad first began. Once there I extended these same techniques and taught that aspect of my soul how to EFT as well. The results were amazing. At times the origin was not as clear and I found my training in how to access the Akashic Records invaluable.
The Akashic Records are the records of one’s soul. Every experience a soul has from the time of its conception is etched in the energy field of the akasha. With the use of a sacred prayer one can connect with the energy field of the Akasha and ultimately to the records of his or her soul. Once there it is possible to ask for insight and direction. This information sets the stage for the next round of healing – a healing which is multidimensional – and clears an issues in all dimensions of consciousness.
If this model interests you and you want a more direct experience of it I encourage you to visit my web site and click on the Blog Talk Radio link for my show entitled, “Take A Soul Step With Me.” The show is on Wednesdays from 11 – noon CST and on it I conduct live sessions which illustrate this model in action. |
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