Do you like to be in control? Who doesn't! Ever since we discovered the power of the word NO as a child, we've used NO to keep away that which we don't want... or at least that is the theory.
When we demonstrate our own personal power to resist and say NO, we feel in control. And that feels good. Yet, sometimes we resist that which is our own stated best interest. We say NO to ourselves! We say NO to our own positive choices.
There is nothing wrong with "NO." We all need to be able to say NO and mean it. And we want to have the emotional freedom to say YES! to life as well. The suffering comes when NO fights with YES within the same mind. My mind. Your mind.
Most of the time, we get really upset with ourselves when we say we want one thing but our behaviors demonstrate we're actually saying NO. Instead of getting angry, what if we have some fun with this conflict? What happens if we love and accept ourselves even with the conflict? What if we use curiosity and playfulness rather than deep seriousness as we tap? Let's try an experiment and find out. Tap with me as we do some rapid EFT. (See Learning EFT if you need to review the tapping points first)
(Karate chop) Even though I want to do this, I don't want to do this, and you can't make me!
(Karate chop) Even though I don't want to do this, and I want to do this, and I can't make me, I'm okay anyway!
(Karate chop) Even though I don't wanna and I do and I don't and I will and I won't and NO NO NO NO NO! You can't make me! I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway!
(Top of head) No! You can't make me!
(Eyebrow) I don't want to!
(Side of eye) Yes, I want to!
(Under eye) No, you don't!
(Under nose) You can't make me!
(Chin) No! No! No! No! No!
(Collarbone) Pulleez! Don't make me!
(Under arm) I have to! I just have to!
(Top of head) I can! I can't! I will! I won't! I must! I mustn't... or I'll die!
Take a breath...
(Karate chop) Even though I am not healthy, I want to be healthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am clearly not healthy, I intend to be healthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am confused about health, I choose to be healthy!
(Eyebrow) No I don't, and you can't make me!
(Side of eye) I want to be thin and have lots of energy!
(Under eye) No, I want to be bigger! Comfortable! Fat & happy!
(Under nose) You can't make me be thin!
(Chin) You can't make me fat!
(Collarbone) No wonder I'm confused!
(Under arm) You can't make me be sick! I choose to be in control!
(Top of head) I say YES to health, today, right now!
Take a breath...
(Karate chop) Even though I am not wealthy, I want to be wealthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am clearly not wealthy, I intend to be wealthy!
(Karate chop) Even though I am conflicted about wealth, I choose to be wealthy!
(Eyebrow) No I don't, and you can't make me!
(Side of eye) I want to have lots of money!
(Under eye) No, I want to be poor. I love debt! Who would I be without bills I can't pay?
(Under nose) You can't make me have money!
(Chin) You can't stop me from making lots of money!
(Collarbone) I am so torn!
(Under arm) You can't make me be poor! I choose to be in control!
(Top of head) I say YES to wealth, today, right now!
Take a breath...
(Karate chop) Even though I've been stuck, I want to live my dreams!
(Karate chop) Even though I'm not taking enough action, I intend to live my dreams!
(Karate chop) Even though I'm stuck and it's my fault, I choose to live my dreams anyway!
(Eyebrow) No I don't, and you can't make me!
(Side of eye) I want live a fulfilling life!
(Under eye) No, I want to be miserable and lonely!!
(Under nose) You can't make me have joy!
(Chin) You can't stop me from living my dreams!
(Collarbone) I've been so stuck!
(Under arm) You can't make me stay stuck! I choose to be in control!
(Top of head) I say YES to life, love, and peace... and to the biggest and best I can be, today, right now!
Take a breath...
(Karate chop) Even though I've been arguing with myself, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
(Karate chop) Even though I've been saying NO to myself, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
(Karate chop) Even though I've been focused on being in control rather than being creative and flexible, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me.
(Eyebrow) It's okay to say No.
(Side of eye) It's okay to say Yes!
(Under eye) I'm sick and tired of saying Yes and No at the same time!
(Under nose) I've decided to be clear.
(Chin) It's okay to be safe, and say Yes.
(Collarbone) It's my choice.
(Under arm) I'm in control.
(Top of head) I love feeling safe, free, and in control of what I choose for my life, today, right now.
Take a deep breath... and another... and one more big one...
Now, say to yourself in your best imitation of a three-year-old: "No! You can't make me!"
Does it feel different now? Is there a sense of silliness to it?? You can make it silly. You can choose to make all your indecisions silly, a comedy of confusion. And in the deep breaths that follow after you use EFT on the confusion and resistance, ask yourself for your truth. And put your YES! energy behind your truth. What Dad told you, what Mom showed you, and what society insists is ultimately just noise, distracting us from hearing the voice of our Higher Self.
I believe that in your heart, you can connect with the highest truth of Who You Are. You will know it by a feeling of YES!, a profoundly beautiful feeling in the center of your being that guides and nurtures your optimal energy and health from a source of love. Even if you don't feel it yet, it's there. And it is worth saying YES! to... if that is your choice. No one can make you, except you. |
