A while back I met a young man at a meeting. I heard him
complain that he had had a skin condition for over four months, and
that he had been to doctors and different kinds of specialists to no
avail. I told him about my energy work, and that if he didn't see any
results to give me a call. A couple of weeks later he made an
"Joe" told me that he wasn't exactly sure as to
what had caused the skin eruptions on the backs of his hands. It
seemed like poison oak, and that he may have gotten it from his cats.
However, it didn't heal. The next month it spread to his face. One
doctor prescribed steroids, and the condition seemed to go away, though
after he stopped taking the steroids his condition came back, only
worse. He had a full body rash, and his skin was extremely dry.
According to him, his immune system was in overdrive.
out that he had recently become a lawyer, and that he had taken on too
much responsibility. He shared that he had both work-related and
personal issues. He and his girlfriend had broken up a little over a
year ago, and he missed the connection. He had an outbreak on his
hands right before his girlfriend moved out.
Since he was a
new lawyer, he felt obligated to take on everything - even if he didn't
like the case. He felt that he had been taken advantage of because he
was the new guy, and he felt bombarded by pleas for help from all
different directions. It was stressful for him to deal with all of the
egos and agendas, too.
When I asked him how he liked being a
lawyer, he answered that he was questioning the nature of the work that
he was doing. I am always looking for the conflict that my client
feels that they are in, and his conflict was that he felt trapped and
confined. Though being a lawyer was the path that he had chosen, he
felt locked into it. His level of intensity was a 9 or 10 out of 10.
Here are some of the set-up phrases I had him use, Even though:
- I feel trapped and confined as a lawyer…
- I spent all of this time and money on becoming a lawyer and my family expects me to follow through…
- I feel like I am locked into a career where there are parts of it that I really hate...
one round of tapping, his level of intensity dropped to 6 out of 10.
He felt the muscles of his lower back relax. He felt a gentleness that
he hadn't felt in a long while; and he confided that he wanted his
parents to love him. His next batch of set-up phrases included, Even
- I feel trapped because I am practicing law and I dislike I lot
of what I see, and I feel uncomfortable in being in some of the
situations that I have been in… and I forgive myself for putting myself
in these situations and allowing myself to put up with what I find
- there is a part of me that
hates being a lawyer and dealing with all of those asshole lawyers and
- I have overextended
myself and have been a patsy - and that has not felt good - my skin has
been trying to tell me that it doesn't like how I have been handling
these different situations, and I deeply and completely love and accept
that my skin has been trying to tell me to say "no" to some of these
arrangements, and I promise my system that I will pay attention to how
I feel. I forgive myself for raging a war inside of my body.
setup phrases and tapping on the points on his face and torso brought
his level of intensity down to 3 out of 10. It was amazing to see how
much more relaxed he looked, including the muscles in his jaw. Then I
started to balance positive and negative affirmations:
though I haven't known what to do, and my skin has been telling me that
things aren't right inside of me, when I get in a situation where I
feel uncomfortable, I remember to breathe and go to my center. Here I
can make the right decisions...
- Even though I have
been uncomfortable with taking on too much in my first year practicing
law, I will now remember to be aware of how I am feeling. I remember
to breathe and center. I am whole and complete.
though I have had a tough first year of being a lawyer, I have learned
a lot. I know my limits and pay attention to how I feel. I breathe,
let go and become present.
As he tapped, before he could
get down his face points with tapping, he started laughing at the
absurdity of his situation. His level of intensity dropped to a 1 out
of 10. He said that he was enjoying the lightness that he felt, and
that he was feeling love in his heart. We did one more round of
tapping in the positive:
- Being in his heart
- Being in the present moment
- Knowing exactly what to do
- Taking on the right amount of work for himself
- Being an honest lawyer
- Serving the people
- Balancing work and play
- Having fun
brought his level of intensity down to zero. He was totally relaxed,
yet vibrant. The swelling in his hands went down and they no longer
itched. I telephoned him a few days later to see how things were
going. He said that his hands were even better, and he felt great!