Andrea Mincsak-Bordelon, who lives near Austin, Texas, conducted a four-week teleclass that covered several important weight-loss themes, including the underlying reasons why people overeat and gain weight, the cravings that can overwhelm us, self-sabotage in its various forms, and strategies for preventing relapses. Here she describes how one of the students changed her life dramatically.

Amazing results during a weight loss teleseminar

by Andrea Mincsak-Bordelon

Angie, a 29-year-old who craved Pepsi and carbohydrates, participated in a four-week EFT weight loss teleseminar that I conducted. Every week in a conference call, we focused on a particular theme, such as why people gain weight, cravings, self-sabotaging behavior, and how to prevent relapses.

In Week 1, Angie shared that when she was 13 years old, her mother had a nervous breakdown, leaving her to become a parent figure for her siblings. She discussed how she used food when stressed. We also worked on the emotions of sadness, worthlessness, and helplessness. She was told by her family that no one would want to be with her because she was fat and ugly, which was translated by her to mean that if she could lose the weight she might find someone to love her. After this tapping session she felt much lighter and happier.

For Week 2, I asked participants to bring to class whatever they most craved. Angie brought Pepsi and carbohydrates. She was addicted to Pepsi; drinking a minimum of 17 per day!!  In the class I had her smell the Pepsi, pour it into a glass, and tell me how much she wanted it on the 0-to-10 scale. Her desire for Pepsi in that moment was 10+.

When I asked her what Pepsi did for her she replied, “It gives me a surge of energy.” That’s where we began.

Even though I really want this Pepsi now, it smells so good and I want the surge of energy it gives me, I deeply and completely love, accept, and forgive all of me now.

Even though I can almost taste how good that Pepsi will be, I want it so bad, I deeply and completely love, accept, and forgive all of me now.

Even though I get a surge of energy from drinking Pepsi, I choose to get energy in a healthier way, and I deeply and completely love, accept, and forgive all of me now.

As we tapped along at one point I said, “Pepsi makes me feel _______,” and waited for Angie to fill in the blank. She said, “Pepsi makes me feel unconditional love.”

Even though Pepsi makes me feel unconditional love, I choose to feel unconditional love without a substance.

... I can feel unconditional love from myself.

... I allow myself to feel unconditional love from myself.

... I am okay just the way I am.

... I am okay and I love myself just as I am.

After the session, I asked Angie to smell the Pepsi. She replied that it did not smell good any longer. Then I asked her to taste it. She said it tasted awful. During the following week Angie had only one Pepsi and didn’t really like it.

Now, months later, she rarely drinks Pepsi and uses EFT daily to make good food choices. A special note is that Angie found out that she was pregnant during the weight loss teleseminar. Because she began her pregnancy overweight, her doctors didn’t want her to gain any weight. By using EFT she has actually lost 21 pounds. She also uses EFT daily to maintain her desire for healthy foods.

In Week 3, when we discussed self-sabotaging behaviors, Angie found that when she didn’t eat like her friends at their monthly dinner gathering, she felt embarrassed. She rated her embarrassment as an 8 on the 0-to-10 scale and, using EFT, quickly collapsed it to zero. We also tapped on the fear of losing friends if she lost weight.

Relapse prevention was Week 4’s theme. Angie was very concerned that her pregnancy would be like her previous pregnancy, which had been very difficult. She realized that she had a belief that she couldn’t do anything easily. She had often been told by her father, “This is God’s way of punishing you,” a statement that on the 0-to-10 scale was 100!!  It made her palms sweat just to think about it.

I asked her to recall a time in her life when she first heard him say, “This is God’s way of punishing you”. She told me she saw herself at age four wearing blue jeans and a tank top, standing on the staircase landing. She had just gotten a puppy, which had crawled upstairs. When she went up to get the puppy, her father startled her and yelled at her for taking the puppy upstairs, which is not what she had done.. When he yelled and told her she was defiant for doing what she was told not to do, she dropped the puppy and it sprained its back leg. He told her it was her fault, that God was punishing her for being defiant and hurting her dog.

I asked her to close her eyes and see if this feeling had a shape or if there was an object somewhere in her body. She saw over her heart a white wrench shape accompanied by a wrenching feeling and a black hammer hammering that God-is-punishing-you concept into her mind. All of this felt very heavy.

First we tapped on the feeling and the white wrench over her heart, with its wrenching feeling, and the black hammer that was very heavy.

Because she said that even though she’s a good person and does as much good as she can for people, she feels that she attracts karmic negativity. I included a vow clearing using Archangel Michael to sever the cords that improperly connected her to that belief. We began with the following Setup Phrases:

Even though he said “This is God’s way of punishing you” when that puppy fell, I deeply and completely love, accept, and forgive all of me and all of these feelings.

Even though I have heaviness over my heart and there is a white wrench and a black hammer, and this terrible wrenching feeling in my heart, I deeply and profoundly love and accept all of me just as I am

Even though he said it and it still makes my palms sweat, because he said “This is God’s way of punishing you” and I believed it, a part of me still does, because things don’t come easy to me, everything in my life has been really hard, and that makes me sad, I deeply and profoundly love and accept all of me and all of these feelings

It was difficult for her to say the last Setup Phrase as she felt close to crying. We tapped on the EFT points using the Reminder Phrases:

Eyebrow:  Nothing comes easy to me.

Side of eye: It’s always hard.

Under eye: It’s always hard, he said it.

Under nose: He said it.

Chin: This is God’s way of punishing you.

Collarbone: And I believed it, because I was a helpless four-year-       old.

Underarm: What was I to do? I was helpless.

Top of head: And now I have this white wrench and black hammer      in my heart.

Eyebrow: I have this wrenching feeling in my heart.

Side of eye: I have this heaviness, this overwhelming heaviness in    my heart.

Under eye: I don’t know what to do.

Under nose: I am helpless.

Chin: I feel like a four-year-old right now.

Collarbone: I don’t feel safe.

Underarm: I can still hear him yelling at me.

Top of head: He said it was God’s way of punishing me.

Eyebrow: Nothing comes easy to me.

Side of eye: Maybe I took some kind of vow in a past life.

Under eye: Maybe that’s why nothing comes easy to me.

Under nose: But I can choose to let that vow go.

She continued to tap on the points as I said, “I now call forth to Archangel  Michael, asking that all vows in all directions of time, all commitments, all promises that no longer serve Angie’s highest and greatest good, be released gently, allowing her to be free of all those vows that hold her back. Only those vows that support and are useful can remain. I asked her to imagine those vows being severed by Archangel Michael’s sword, and those ribbons and cords being burned and transmuted into divine white light by the cool burning violet flame of St. Germaine.”

Top of head:  I am grateful that these vows have been transmuted.

Eyebrow:  I am so happy they are in my past.

Side of eye: It feels good to be free.

Under eye: It feels good to be free.

Under nose: I am a good person.

Chin: And I was a good girl when I was four.

Collarbone: I was doing the best I could.

Underarm: I always do the best I can.

Top of head: I am a good person.

I asked her how much she believed that last statement on a scale of 0 to 10. She said about an 8. What would help her to believe it completely?  She responded, “I don’t know.”

Eyebrow:  I don’t know what I need to do to believe that with all my      heart and soul.

Side of eye: I wish I knew.

Under eye: I am open to receive guidance.

Under nose: I am open to be able to begin to love myself 100             percent.

Chin: I am open to try.

Collarbone: I am open to the possibility that I can love myself 100      percent.

Underarm: Maybe I don’t because I didn’t feel loved.

Top of head: So what if it did not seem like they loved me.

Eyebrow: I love me.

Side of eye: And I have lots of people that love me now.

Under eye: I choose to love myself fully.

Under nose: I am safe.

Chin: I can love myself fully and be safe.

Collarbone: I can love myself fully and be safe.

Underarm: And they can’t do anything about it.

Top of head: So there! I love myself, and I am safe, and I love them   too, but I choose not let them hurt me anymore.

When asked to go back and review the heart-wrenching feeling, she said that those images had dissipated and now something was stuck in her throat. She described it as muted red in color, smooth and heavy, making her feel like vomiting. She said it was about the size of a bocce ball and about as heavy. When asked it if had an emotion, she said it roared.

Even though I have this ball of negative muted red energy in my throat, it smooth and heavy and reminds me of a bocce ball, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me and all of my feelings

Even though I have this ball of negative muted red energy deep in my throat, its smooth and heavy and reminds me of a bocce  ball, I deeply and completely love and accept all of me and all of my feelings

Even though I have this feeling that I want to vomit and it comes from this negative ball of muted red energy in my throat, I love and accept all of me just as I am.

Eyebrow:  This ball of negative red energy.

Side of eye: This ball of red energy in my throat.

Under eye: This ball of negative red energy in my throat.

Under nose: This ball of negative red energy.

Chin: This ball of negative red energy.

Collarbone: It wants to roar.

Underarm: I think it is  _____________.

(when she filled in the blank, she said, “loud.”)

Top of head: I think it’s loud.

Eyebrow:  I think this ball of negative red energy is loud.

Side of eye: It’s heavy.

Under eye: It’s in my throat.

Under nose: It’s in my throat.

Chin: It’s smooth and its heavy.

Collarbone: This ball of negative red energy in my throat.

Underarm: This ball of negative red energy in my throat.

Top of head: It’s okay to let it go.

Angie took a deep breath and reported that she burped and it just came up. She said, “That was very easy!”

Eyebrow: That was easy.

Side of eye: And that felt good.

Under eye: It feels good to have things go easily.

Under nose: I accept that my life can be easy.

Chin: My life can be easy and I can be safe.

Collarbone:  My life is now easy and I am now safe.

Underarm: I am so happy that that old stuff is gone.

Top of head: And I love knowing that my future is easy, and that I        am totally safe in everyway!

Angie took another deep breath and said that the shape within had been replaced with white pearl and cream colors. She said she saw Archangel Michael in the room and felt him enclose her in his wings during the vow clearing.

Now she believed the “life can be easy for me” statement, saying it felt true at a rating of 9.5 to 10 on the 0-to-10 scale. She finished this session feeling weightless, clear and light, and not at all worried about relapsing.

That final session was on July 8, seven months ago. Angie’s baby, a girl, is due next month. She says, “Thus far into my pregnancy, I've lost a total of 27 pounds. I had a doctor appointment yesterday and found out I lost a few more pounds since the last visit. I did not ‘diet’ while pregnant, but found that the weight started to just fall off. I was tapping with the intention of eating the foods that the baby needed to grow strong and healthy, while also helping me feel satisfied and ‘full.’ I became anemic during this pregnancy, so I needed to find foods that were rich in iron. Of course those foods were ones that I had major aversions to, so I tapped on those foods and was able to tolerate many more of them than I thought I could.”

Regarding her father, Angie reports that she now looks at him with sympathy. “I know this may sound strange,” she says, “but I see him as someone who was just treating his first child the same way he had been treated all his life. In my heart, I know we'll never have the father/daughter relationship that my heart would like, but I'm okay with that and I have released the need to have that relationship with him and am no longer letting him have that ‘hold’ over me where unconditional love is concerned. The process with the tapping has allowed me to find other ways to love myself unconditionally and accept myself for who I am, not what someone wanted me to be.”

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