The Main Reasons Why People Don’t Know What They Want (and so never get it)



Think about it.



If I asked you now “What would your life need to look like for you to
say that you are living your dreams?” how difficult or easy would it be
for you to answer that?



How clear are you on what you want?



Just know that unless you know what you want in life, you are very unlikely to ever get it!



Here are the main reasons why most people – and possibly you – aren’t clear on what you want, and

therefore rarely get what you want.

• You’ve never thought about it because you experience life as a bystander or a victim – life happens ‘to’ you
• You don’t think it’s possible for you to have it anyway so what’s the point in thinking about it
• You
  think that your dreams are too big to happen and you should just keep
  your head down, be more realistic and just get on with things
• You think it’s selfish, bad or wrong to want something good for yourself
• You don’t know HOW it could happen so you give up before you’ve even started
• You
  are afraid to get excited about something and then end up being
  disappointed if it doesn’t happen so you live in a perpetual state of
  disappointment instead
• You don’t think you deserve it
• You don’t love yourself enough to think that it’s OK for you to have it
• You
  think that we live in a limited universe where there simply isn’t
  enough for everybody, so it’s responsible (or even spiritual) to go
  without
• You buy into the limitations of those around you, and the media, e.g.
• “It’s recession and people don’t have money”
• “That’ll never work because … “
• “It’s not that easy, because…”
• Remember
  that often the people who shoot down your ideas are frustrated
  themselves that they’ve not been able to create their dreams and may
  have given up on their own dreams!
• You are afraid of failing,
  or getting it wrong, or looking like a fool, or being ridiculed, or
  laughed at. Yes ladies and gentlemen, we here have the classic “What
  if?”
• “What if I fail?”
• “What if people think I’m stupid?”
• “What if I get rejected?”
• “What if […fill in the blank….]?”
• The classic ‘if/then’ scenario, where you are waiting for things to be perfect
• “If I have more time, then I’ll do it…”
• “If I have more money, then I’ll do it…”
• “If the economy picks up, then …”
• “If I get that new job, [car, partner, …fill in the blank…] then …”
• Usually, of course, ‘then’ never comes.
• The classic ‘YES/BUT’ argument, guaranteed to kill any dream:
• “Yes but I don’t know enough!”
• “Yes but I don’t have enough time!”
• “Yes but I don’t have the right qualification, or enough experience!”
• “Yes but […fill in the blank…]

The only problem with all of these limitations is that if you insist on them, you’ll get to be right.



If you tell yourself that you cannot succeed because you don’t have enough experience, you’ll get to be right.



If you insist that you cannot do what you love for a living because there’s not enough money in it, you’ll get to be right.



If you insist that people don’t have money, or won’t want to pay you for what you have to offer, you’ll get to be right.



And as we all know, the best part of being right is, of course, being able to say afterwards “See, I TOLD you so!”



It’s ok to argue for your limitations (you always have free choice) –
but recognise that won’t get to be right because “that is the way it
is”; you’ll get to be right because you would have created it so.



It’s not that reality creates beliefs, it’s that beliefs create reality.



As Neville says ‘Experience has convinced me that an assumption, though false, if persisted in will harden into fact.”



TAPPING

3 x on the Karate Chop point: Even though there are all these reasons
why I don't know what I want, I deeply and completely love and accept
myself anyway, and I'm open to a change!



Tap through all the points:

- I don't know what I want

- never really thought about it

- it won't happen anyway

- so what's the point

- I'll just get my hopes up (again)

- and be disappointed (again)

- so I'm not going to bother

- but a part of me won't give up

- and that's because a part of me knows that I can create what I want

- that it is possible

- even for me

- but what if it doesn't work out

- what if I get it wrong

- what if I look like a fool

- I'll do this later ... when I have enough time

- and money

- when I feel better about myself

- or I can just do it now

- give myself permission to listen to my deeper truths

- what if I've been unhappy only because I've not really listened to myself

- because I've bought into all the limitations that most people buy into

- which is why most people don't have what they want

- what if I didn't have to follow the crowd?

- what if I could allow myself to get clear on what I want

- since that's the only way to ever create it

- that sounds like a good idea!

- and even if it doesn't happen overnight

- I choose to keep believing that it's possible

- because the fact that I can think it, makes it so!



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Best wishes until next time!

Bennie Naude

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