Clients come in patterns. I am not sure if the patterns have to do with my own energy, something happening in the world, or both. So in this case, what is the universe trying to tell me? If I give an honest look at myself, I can see that I have been resisting healing and self care lately. We get very used to where we are. We get comfortable with our limitations and our goals on hold. The Law of Inertia applies to our own lives: People at rest tend to stay at rest.

So I want to issue a challenge and an invitation for the New Year. Allow yourself to rest and reflect for a little bit, and then get moving. There is something in your life calling for your attention, and you know what it is. Let this be the year that you heed that call. What would make this year the best year of your life?

Make yourself a priority. If you aren't, then you probably aren't doing much good for anybody else anyway. Schedule time for yourself, without the guilt. Make good boundaries with those demanding of your time (family, friends, work) and enforce those boundaries. You deserve to live a good life, on your terms.

Above all, be patient with yourself. Sometimes change happens overnight, but most of the time, it takes time. You don't have to do it all in a day. Take your time. But whatever it is, make sure that you do something.

In honor of the New Year, and my clients who need some TLC before moving forward, I am making a commitment to myself. I will schedule “me time” every week. That is tough to do for a working mother of a three year old! If something else comes up, I will tell others, “no, I have a very important appointment at that time.” I will honor my own deserving, so that others can learn to honor theirs. I will honor myself so that my son can learn to honor himself, and my clients can learn by example. We all do so much for other people. It is high time that our selves got the same courtesy.

Once I realized what was going on, I did some tapping and have already already enjoyed some “me time”. Wow, what a difference! Thank you, my wonderful clients, who taught me this about myself!

To get you started, please enjoy the tapping script below. For general directions on how to do EFT yourself, including the tapping points, please visit http://www.thetappingsolution.com/e_book_thank_you.php and download the free e-book.  Page 12 includes the tapping points.

Let's Get Started!

Pick something you would like to do this week for yourself, but that you feel resistance to doing. List in your head all the reasons that you don't want to do it, or feel that you can't do it.  Rate that resistance on a scale of up to 10 with how strongly you feel it  (You can't or don't want to do it this week).  Fill in the blanks below with whatever is appropriate for you, and begin.

KC: Even though I have all of this resistance to ____________ (doing something good for myself) this week, for whatever reason, and I don't want to let it go, I deeply love and accept myself anyway.

Even though I can't give myself permission to _____________ this week, for whatever reason, and I don't want to let it go, I deeply love and accept myself.

Even though I feel ________ (guilt, sadness, anger, fear, etc.) when I think about doing ___________, that I'm wasting my time,, and I don't want to let it go, I love and accept myself anyway.

EB: All this resistance.

SE: I don't want to do it.

UE: This feeling of (guilt, sadness, anger, fear, etc.)

UN: I refuse to let it go.

CH: I just don't have the time!

CB: I have too much to do.

UA: I don't even really want to.

H: I have to ________ instead.

EB: This feeling of (guilt, sadness, anger, fear, etc.) about taking time for me.

SE: What if somebody gets mad at me, or thinks I don't deserve it?

UE: I don't deserve that time for myself

UN: It's too hard to schedule.

CH: I really should _________ instead.

CB: What if somebody judges me.

UA: I don't deserve that time to myself.

H: It's just too hard, cause there's is too much to do.

Take a deep breath.

Go back and assess your resistance to your chosen activity. How strong does it feel? If it is at a 7 or higher, go back to the top and start again. Feel free to use your own phrases as you feel inclined, personalizing it for yourself. If a specific memory comes up, such as your parents telling you that you are too selfish, tap on that very specifically. (For example, even though I feel all this sadness that my mom gave me a guilt trip about doing yoga instead of having lunch with her, I deeply and completely love and accept myself). Don't worry about getting the words right. You can just vent, and great releases can come from that.

When it drops to a 7 or below, continue below.

KC: Even though I still have this resistance to spending the time to ___________ this week, for whatever reason, I want to allow myself to enjoy doing good things.

Even though I still can't allow myself to __________________ this week, for whatever reason, I want to love and accept myself whether I do it or not.

Even though I can never put myself first, because other people need something from me, and I just don't have any time, I do want to put myself first for a change.

EB: This remaining feeling of _________ (guilt, sadness, anger, fear, etc.) about wanting to ________

SE: I don't want to let it go.

UE: Maybe I could let it go.

UN: No, I can't.

CH: Part of me would like to let go of this ________ (guilt, sadness, anger, fear, etc.)

CB: But another part is afraid of the repercussions.

UA: What if I could let myself do it.

H: But what if something bad happens?

EB: But maybe I do deserve something good.

SE: But I just can't make myself do it, and I don't want to.

UE: I deserve something good for myself.

UN: But I don't know how I'm going to find the time.

CH: I would like to learn.

CB: All these things that are getting in the way.

UA: I could choose to release them.

H: It would feel good to release them.

Take a deep breath.

Repeat the steps above, using your own words if you like, until you are down to a 2 or 3. Then continue:

KC: Even though I still can't completely give myself permission to __________ this week, I choose to do what's best for ME.

Even though some part of me still doesn't feel good about __________ this week, I choose to listen to the part of me that knows it would be great for me.

Even though I still have some resistance to ________ this week, for whatever reason, I choose to be kind, patient, and gentle to myself, and to let myself take care of me.

EB: This remaining resistance and feeling of _______.

SE: I choose to let it go.

UE: Any remaining reasons not to _________.

UN: I choose to let them go.

CH: I can't let them go.

CB: It would feel good to let it go.

UA: remaining _______ (guilt, sadness, anger, fear, etc.) about _________

H: I can just let it go.

EB: It's so hard to find the time.

SE: I bet I could make the time

UE: I may feel guilty.

UN: I could give myself permission.

CH: I don't know how to make the time

CB: I could choose to feel good about it.

UA: Any remaining doubts or resistance.

H: I choose to honor myself this week, and to feel great about it.

Tap until your resistance and unpleasant feelings are at a 0.

EB: I choose to make time for me.

SE: It's so brave of me to do that.

UE: This is going to feel so good.

UN: I really deserve this.

CH: I get to be a priority.

CB: I can be a great example to others to take care of themselves too.

UA: I choose to honor myself.

H: I bet this will even give me more energy.

EB: I feel so good about this.

SE: I can't wait to ________.

UE: I feel so good about this.

UN: I'm so proud of myself.

CH: Way to go, me!

CB: I totally deserve this.

UA: I'm going to completely enjoy it.

H: I love that I'm going to ________ this week.

Now congratulate yourself for getting started!

If you are unable to get relief, then there may be a deeper issue involved. A professional session of EFT may help get to the root of the problem.

Disclaimer: By reading this page, you are agreeing to take charge of your own health and accept complete responsibility for the results that incur. EFT is not intended to treat or cure any disease or disorder, and is not a substitute for professional medical/psychological advice. Always consult a qualified health provider regarding any medical or psychological condition. This page is not medical advice.