As a sort of follow-up to last week's blog, I had another issue related to this person and his healing.

The day after I sent my angry, foot-down email (mentioned in last Monday's blog), I woke up with a good deal of anxiety about him emailing me yet again with more anger and more questions. I had declared the end of my communication with him but somehow I hadn't convinced myself. How could I then hope to convince him? We are never credible if we don't believe ourselves.

I looked deeper and saw there was some remaining guilt concerning his unhappiness, a feeling of responsibility for his healing. If I could only convince him that I didn't do what he thinks... If he would only try EFT... I have the solution for his healing... I'm not a good friend/healer if I can't convince him to try it... etc., etc., so I tapped.

Please understand that I let my issues speak in their own words (very often the words and the world of a frightened, stubborn child) as I find this is the best way for me to truly release. I try to get out of my own way, even when I'm only working with myself:

Even though he has to see it my way or he won’t be alright, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: He has to do it my way. He won't heal if he doesn't. He'd better do it and do it my way.

Even though I’m right, my way is the only right way, I completely love, accept and forgive myself.
Reminder phrases: I'm right. I know the best way. The only way.

Of course, I had to laugh at those particular phrases. There are surely as many "right ways" to heal as there are people on the planet.

Even though he has to do it my way as I am responsible for his healing, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: I have to heal him. It's my responsibility. I have to make him feel better. Do it my way.

Now, you may notice that I didn't mention my anxiety in any of the phrases but it disappeared anyway. It was contained in that pressure I put on myself to be all things to all people... even when they don't want or need me to be.

After tapping, I realized his healing was up to him, if he wants, when he wants, how he wants and I don't have to worry about it. I only need to be available to him, should I so choose, if he asks me to be.

Have a great week!