I, like many women, have cellulite on my thighs and backside. Ever since I was in high school (many, many moons ago!), this area of my body, among others, was one of my reasons for hating my body, feeling fat, ugly and generally unacceptable - certainly not attractive to anyone other than my parents.
To make things worse, I had a boyfriend a few years ago on whom I was very emotionally dependent and who reflected back to me some of my own feelings about my body by making a devastating comment about my butt (yes, I've tapped on that memory since then).
When I finally met my present partner who loved my body, I just couldn't imagine anyone seeing me and not having the same magnified vision of my cellulite that I had. It just felt to me as though he was lying when he would say he loved how I looked and yet I know him to be very sincere and I could see in his eyes that it was true for him.
I knew it wasn't serving me any longer to hold on to this body hatred, in fact it was a slight barrier against intimacy in our relationship. Keeping this in mind, I would stand naked looking at my celllulite in the mirror when the mood would strike me (not all in one session) and I would tap:
Even though this disgusting cellulite makes me want to vomit, I completely love and accept myself and I'm trying to love my body.
Reminder phrases: Disgusting cellulite. Makes me want to vomit. Absolutely revolting.
As you can see, there was quite a bit of emotion involved and I had to do quite a few rounds on this and similar phrases. :)
Different aspects came up as I went along:
Even though I f***ing hate my a**, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: I hate my a**. It's fat and disgusting. Repulsive. (This one was also said with much gusto on quite a few rounds)
Even though that puckered, blobby skin could never be considered attractive, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: Puckered, fat, blobby skin. Gross skin texture.
Even though I'm so embarrassed by the sight of my a** and thighs, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: I'm embarrassed by my a**. I'm embarrassed about my thighs.
Even though no one could find cellulite attractive, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: No one could love cellulite. Impossible to love cellulite.
Even though it's impossible for him not to see it, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: He must see it. He's just being nice. He finds it disgusting but won't say.
Even though X said he didn't want my butt in his life, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: I lost "X-boyfriend" because of my butt. He found me unattractive. I felt so unattactive.
Even though I'm sad because my body isn't like the ones in the magazines, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: My body will never be perfect. I'm sad my body has cellulite.
Now, I didn't make my cellulite actally disappear, though I suppose with EFT this might be possible (I've heard more bizarre things have happened), but at least I am no longer aware of it and when I look in the mirror my body actually appears different to me, though I'm sure it hasn't changed.
Where I used to see huge lumps of disgusting, mottled flesh because my view was emotionally magnified I now see average sized curves and the attractive female figure that my boyfriend sees. My eyes are no longer drawn to notice and amplify the cellulite areas of my body.
Keep in mind that I use whatever language feels real and true to me (or my client). If I feel like I HATE something then I say it because I have found that this is the best way to evoke the emotion, which evokes the energy block and which can then be so efficiently released.
My suggestion is, if you have any body issues, let the hate, disgust, despair, sadness, horror, embarrassment and/or other uncomfortable feelings come to the surface and express themselves but don't forget to tap as they come up so that you can release them forever. They are no longer serving you.
(P.S. As Gary Craig would suggest, it's also very important to tap on any specific events that are body image related - i.e. "The time __ said my __ was too __" - you fill in the blanks) using the Movie Technique or another method.
Use EFT to learn to love your body.
