I specifically remember this issue because of how strong the emotions were and yet how quickly it was resolved.

In early 2007, a neighbour/friend/possible love interest came over after having been away for 2 weeks. I was so happy to see him. We'd had a few very warm phone calls while he was away and I hoped we would have supper together on his first evening back. We chatted for a little while then he told me he had dinner plans with some friends and that he'd really only come to borrow some butter.

After he had gone I realized that I was in a major turmoil of emotions. When I poked into what was going on, I found myself feeling used and manipulated - he hadn't come to visit with me, he had come to borrow butter. This prompted me to think about all the other times in my life when I felt people had used the positive feelings I had for them simply to get what they wanted for themselves, not truly caring about me or my needs (or so I interpreted). This made me incredibly sad and heart-felt sobs came up from inside.

As I sobbed, I tapped:

I think I had only gotten to the collarbone point when the sobbing stopped dead and it turned to utter fury. So I tapped on the fury:

Even though I'm furious that people use my feelings for them to manipulate me, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: They just use me to fill their own needs. They try to manipulate me.

It took only two rounds to completely remove the wild fury and replace it with compassion. I remember the thought that popped up: "Wow, poor them, they don't know any other way to get their needs met."

I was also able to see that he was happy to see me, he simply didn't have the time necessary to attend to that aspect at that particular moment. And that was pretty much the end of that issue for me.

Before EFT, I would have cried for days about that stuff and it would have clouded my real feelings about the relationship. This time I was able to see the truth of what was going on and make decisions from that clear place. What a gift!