When I started using EFT, I didn't have great results immediately. It took me over six months to have an Ah-Ha moment that made me realize what EFT was capable of. Even once I had realized that EFT could give me incredible results, I found that I wasn't using it as often as I could on as many things as I could. I find this happens with regularity to the people I work with one-on-one as well as the students to whom I teach EFT.
One day, I took the time to sit down and figure out why I continued to let myself suffer on some issues. What I found to be the underlying cause was a negative belief (or maybe 10 of them).
The thing about negative beliefs is that they masquarade as truth. We believe these things therefore we also believe these ideas cannot be changed, that they ARE the truth and that nothing can be done about it... Of course, then this makes us feel: Why bother with EFT, or anything else for that matter? I've encountered so many people with these beliefs and I found for myself that, more often than not, these were the things that took the wind out of my self-healing sails. It's not that the tools don't help, it's that we don't use them when we need them.
I decided that I didn't have anything to lose by trying to tap on my negative beliefs so I did:
Even though I am too damaged to heal, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: Too damaged. I can't heal. I've been squashed by life and I can't come back.
Even though there's something fundamentally wrong with me, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: There's something fundamentally wrong with me. I can't heal. I came in this way. I'll go out this way.
Even though that's just the way I am, I completely love and accept myself.
Reminder phrases: That's just how I am. There's just no hope for change.
Well, guess what? It took me a good few rounds for each because they were very well entrenched but, after tapping on these, and a few more that were rolling around in there. I began to apply EFT more consistantly to many more things and to believe that I could heal, that I wasn't STUCK forever with my stuff. I now use EFT as my first response to most things (though I admit there still seem to be some areas of my life where negative beliefs are lurking) and I try in every situtation to:
1. Become aware of what is going on inside me (uncomfortable emotions, negative or limiting thoughts, physical sensations indicating an issue, etc.).
2. Tap on what I discover before I stop myself by thinking about it.
3. Reassess and reapply if necessary.
The results almost always surpass my expectations. It's as if, on some level, even after successfully using EFT on more things than I can possibly count, I still have not yet wrapped my head around the fact that it truly works on almost all of my issues.
I think we are so conditioned by our Western society NOT to believe in miracles, to "KNOW" that they cannot happen, to believe that a low to moderate level of suffering is "perfectly normal" that even when we have a miracle that we are able to repeat and repeat and repeat, we doubt.
How sad is that? Oh well, just another thing to tap on. :)
In any case, at least I have conditioned myself to tap first and ask questions later. I can only suggest that you do the same.
