Are you an emotional hostage to someone’s unreasonable demands?

          At one time or another, everyone has had one of these people in their life  The people who expect you to drop everything you are doing to attend to their needs. The things going on in their life are all big important deals, everything going on in your life, well… not so much… if at all. They have a hidden agenda that over time they get you to spend every available moment being focused on them, their life and unmet emotional needs.

          Slowly, over time you become their puppet or prisoner and you didn’t see it coming. You soon find out that no matter how much of your own business goes unattended, while they are at the center of your attention, it is just never enough for them.

          To add insult to injury they are constantly criticizing you, trying to make you feel guilty for “still not being there” or doing things the way they think you should. You learn you just can’t fill their long list of unmet emotional needs. You can’t understand how they get you to feel guilty. All the while anger and resentment within you is building towards them.

          Some of us have learned life skills that make us smart enough to “run away”, “run away” from these people. Others have been unconsciously trained from childhood to fall right into these peoples trap. You may have been put in a similar relationship dynamic within your own family as a child and feel immense guilt when you don’t meet the needs of others. If you were a puppet or prisoner within your family of origin growing up, a part of you may feel comfortable or safe in that dynamic of compliance because it is familiar and you have never known any other way.

          It is everyone’s birthright and is essential to their personal health, happiness and wellbeing to meet one’s own important needs first. Yes I did say essential! Not selfish or self indulgent. We all need to have personal time and space to ourselves to handle our business, rest and have some spiritual renewal.

          Using the ingenuity and innovation of energy therapy unhooking from these relationships can be easy and relatively pain free. Our goal is to install into our subconscious mind how it is essential to take care of our needs first so that we may have more to extend out into our world. In my recorded Tapping Script “Hostage no more” due out on3-25-10  we will use EFT and my MTZ Reframe work to Free you from your current captors or any future hostage relationships. Please visit us at www.eftkarenhayes