Byron Katie’s only Prayer
God ( or what ever term you works for you ) spare me from the desire for Love, Approval, and Appreciation.
Unless you’ve reached sainthood, at one time or another you will have some need of getting love, approval and appreciation from others.
If you want a recipe for disaster in you relationships, have an expectation that other people love, approve and appreciate you. To some degree we must find a way to love, approve of and appreciate ourselves. Our soul is always trying to pull us towards knowing the truth about ourselves. It is our birthright to know that we are loved, to know we need no ones approval, and to appreciate ourselves for all that we are and all that we are not.
The mind can always play a critical role and give us reasons why we do not measure up. Our soul always encourages us to feel the truth about ourselves. Energy therapy can really speed up the process of embodying these truths. If you do not find a way to embody these truths within yourself; you will be on the hamster wheel always looking for others to fill those unmet emotional needs.
It feels scary and lonely when we realize this is our job and our job alone. It is an assignment from the soul. Learning to love, approve and appreciate ourselves is the process of maturing and growing up. We have to own those feelings to walk in our truth. We would never be able to feel the power within us it these feelings come from others or outside ourselves. No one can love us enough, approve of us enough, or appreciate us enough; if we do not process some of these feeling to some degree.
Relying on others to meet these unmet needs can only be short lived and temporary. At some point, the people we look to, to fulfill our needs, get busy with there own lives and can’t. Once that day comes then we tend resent them. Their filling those needs is like a drug. When they stop, look out! You are going to do whatever it takes to pull them back to their job of making you feel better about yourself. The tools in your toolbox to do that are trying to make them feel guilty, pouting, fear, manipulation; basically any way to make them feel responsible. It’s UGLY STUFF.
The people who do try to fill that emptiness have a hidden agenda of being someone’s hero (this is a blog for another day). The hero becomes drained when they realize this will be a never ending chore to make you feel good about yourself. That it is an impossible task and they will pay dearly when they can’t deliver. I have a wonderful audio script, a combination of EFT and Z point on releasing the need, for love, approval and appreciation and embodying within ourselves love, approval and appreciating the self. You can find it on March 14th my website’s store www.eftkarenhayes.com Thank you and blessings.
