Funny how we are able to attract certain things into our lives, but not others. Ever wonder why?
Take me as an example. It’s easy for me to find parking places–they seem to magically show up wherever I go–but I have a hard time getting to the weight I want to be. The problem is, of course, those underlying beliefs.
When something is easy to attract, it is because I expect it to be! I have no evidence that whispers, “Yeah, right! I don’t believe that” or “Have you lost your mind? That isn’t what I want at all!!” The worst of all is the voice that says I don’t deserve to have it or the memory of the disasters in the past. Remember what happened last time? Without those beliefs pitted against the new ones, things happen effortlessly.
For example, I easily attract good parking places. Using the Law of Attraction, I practiced that one time and again, consistently having great results. As a child, I didn’t drive, so there aren’t any beliefs programmed into me about whether or not that should or should not happen. In other words, I am not having to spend a great deal of time undoing limiting beliefs from my past. Thus, when I pull into a parking lot, my expectation is that I will find a perfect place just waiting for me. I have no background noise in my head sabotaging that belief, so I vibrate in congruency with abundant parking places. Wallah….parking places are abundant. No problem!
However, if I want to lose 10 pounds, I seem to really struggle with that one. Why? Well, because I have beliefs that are not in harmony with that idea. I’ve tried lots of different diets, and the results were varied. I also have a belief that it isn’t easy and that I have to give up things I enjoy. That makes me angry! We’re getting close. What about my weight made me angry as a child? Oh, wow! I have some terrible memories stored about that. As a child, I was extreeeeeeeeeeemely skinny, so losing weight was not something I wanted to do. In fact, I desperately tried to gain weight! I was called names and made fun of for being skinny. Twiggy, they called me. I hated that. It made me furious! I remember spending lots of time standing on the bathroom scale, drinking glass after glass of water, in a hopeless attempt to weigh 100 pounds. Starting to see what’s going on with me? Sure! Even though I’m now an adult who wants to lose weight, those subconscious programs of my youth are still running the show. The adult me is battling with the inner child, and because the subconscious programs are so much stronger than the conscious beliefs, I don’t lose weight. Nope…in fact, the inner child continues to want to add more weight. She is going to do whatever it takes to keep me from being skinny. She can’t believe I’m even talking about LOSING weight! Yikes–hard to believe how STRONG that kid is!
What to do? Well, I have to clear out the beliefs that my inner child is clinging to. I have to erase that tape and create a space for the new idea. I will tap on myself, saying things like:
“Even though it feels like I need to gain weight because I was teased so much about being skinny, I choose to allow myself to accept a new belief about my weight.”
“Even though I hated being skinny as a child and it makes me so angry to remember those names, I am open to allowing myself to lose this weight today.”
“Even though a part of me is afraid of being teased about being so skinny, I am now ready to let go of that 10 pounds because I know I am safe.”
I will have to do some talking to the child who is remembering how awful it was to be ridiculed about her weight! She is going to have to be convinced that she is safe to lose that 10 pounds. Gently, I pry the control out of her hands, and hand it over to the adult who now holds a new belief. I can teach the inner child that security comes in many forms…not just in the form of food. I can calm her down and erase the anger she feels. She can find comfort in my new-found confidence. As I make her feel safe and undo her anger, she no longer has a need to hold on to additional weight. Suddenly, the struggle ends, and I effortlessly lose those 10 pounds that have held on for years.
If you find some things happen easily for you, while others are a struggle, go back and ask yourself what beliefs you are still holding onto that tell you this new idea is a bad one. How does that make you feel? Identify the emotional attachment. Erase the tapes with EFT! Until your beliefs are congruent, you will continue to sabotage the new idea with the old one.
Only after you have cleared out the negative beliefs will the new ones take hold. Once you have done the tapping, now it is time to do your positive work! This time, however, the record button is on, and there is a space on the tape for new programs to play.
Go get ‘em, Tiger!
I AM…Jodi
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